A victim according to Dictionary.com is a person who suffers from a destructive or injurious action or agency; also a person who is deceived or cheated as by his or her own emotions, ignorance, by the dishonesty of others, or by some impersonal agency. I believe most victimization is a byproduct of wrong thinking. We draw negativity to us as we put out negativity. I have had many tragic things happen to me in my life yet I upon sufficient research I led myself over the cliff.
About the only time victimization is the responsibility of another is in the experience of children, people who think like children and .01% of the time when “shit happens.” If I don’t have full trust in people or situations I just don’t act. I tell my clients all the time, “If your thoughts and conscience don’t have clear direction, do not make any decision.” No important decisions must be made in a hurry. I don’t go places that aren’t safe. I trust less people more than ever before as my trust in others has proven destructive.
Upon thorough examination I have found my victimization to be as much my fault as another’s. Wanting to trust someone and able to trust someone are miles apart but I tend to superimpose them. It is usually my own ignorance that causes me problems that I use to term myself a victim. When I am willing to take 100% responsibility for everything in my life I become a victor instead of a victim. Responsibility also removes me from being targeted by victimizers. If you want to know how to prevent victimization remember…
Your Life is PERFECT!
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.