A victim according to is a person who suffers from a destructive or injurious action or agency; also a person who is deceived or cheated as by his or her own emotions, ignorance, by the dishonesty of others, or by some impersonal agency. I believe most victimization is a byproduct of wrong thinking. We draw negativity to us as we put out negativity. I have had many tragic things happen to me in my life yet I upon sufficient research I led myself over the cliff.

About the only time victimization is the responsibility of another is in the experience of children, people who think like children and .01% of the time when “shit happens.” If I don’t have full trust in people or situations I just don’t act. I tell my clients all the time, “If your thoughts and conscience don’t have clear direction, do not make any decision.” No important decisions must be made in a hurry. I don’t go places that aren’t safe. I trust less people more than ever before as my trust in others has proven destructive.

Upon thorough examination I have found my victimization to be as much my fault as another’s. Wanting to trust someone and able to trust someone are miles apart but I tend to superimpose them. It is usually my own ignorance that causes me problems that I use to term myself a victim. When I am willing to take 100% responsibility for everything in my life I become a victor instead of a victim. Responsibility also removes me from being targeted by victimizers.  If you want to know how to prevent victimization remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!



Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

About Randolph Ek

My name is Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D. I started life as one of five children of an alcoholic father. The physical and mental abuse nearly destroyed my life. In fact my self-destructive behavior nearly landed me in prison. I eventually was guided to an alcohol/drug counselor and he directed me to a rehabilitation center. Since that time I have spent more than thirty years devoted to helping people find their ultimate potential. We can blame our negative, spiraling life on victimization but until we accept responsibility the power we need is beyond us. When we accept our part in our lives and surrender to a higher power, which I choose to call God, intervention is immediate. God allows us to realize our true power. We are all made in God’s Image and Likeness and have all the power of the universe at our disposal. We are not victims; we are volunteers and once we believe this truth our lives become limitless. God wants us all to have our heart’s desire and he will deliver whatever we continually think about good or bad. Unless I start my day off powerless and humble I cannot make the spiritual connection required to tap into God’s limitless power. God loves mankind and refuses to leave anyone behind. We can go willingly or we can be dragged to salvation. Pain is merely a symptom of spiritual separation mind, body and spirit. Realize, your individual limited resources, seek help, join others in their quest for spiritual understanding. Realize that all religions are right, yet they are also incomplete.

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