Do you allow your life to be tempered by adversity? Temper, according to Dictionary.com tempered, as I use it is a metallurgical process to reach a degree of hardness and strength imparted to a metal, as by quenching, heat treatment or cold working. Life can equally temper us by bringing us hardness and strength through adversity and success. When I see my life as neutral, both good and bad having equal value in my life I can see God working in my life for good. When I begin to judge my life and the experiences I am offered I differentiate the good and the bad. It is seeing all that happens in my life as a blessing that allows my life to temper.
I am constantly inventorying my life and my experiences in order to appreciate my life and not judge. If God is in control of the universe and I am merely a player in the grand scheme of life, then I must accept all of my life as a blessing. I am grateful for all that I have experienced in my life: the loses; the gifts; the mundane and the excitement. I can see God’s DNA on all of my life. I can see how I have ridden in the front seat and been drug behind, based on my acceptance or not. God is in my life whether I am willing to play by the rules or not. The difference between allowing God to temper me or not is the determining factor in my pain.
My work with people has shown me that the strong have learned that their truth is within them and properly tempered by adversity, their pain is minimal. People who have not allowed God to temper them with love and understanding allow the world to own them and dictate their emotional wellbeing. I know that God has loved me every second of my life. None of my experiences were punishment, but were blessings. I use to be rigid and wishy-washy. Today I am firm, yet flexible. I am loved by people who know me and I love people who allow me to. If you want to know how to allow your life to be tempered remember…
Your Life is PERFECT!
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.