Do you react or do you respond? According to Dictionary.com react is to act in response to an agent or influence, while respond is to react favorably. When I react I am normally doing so based on information acquired from past experiences, which may or may not be relevant. When I respond I am normally doing so based on current information lacking past judgement. When I react I am normally living from my human nature and when I am responding I am normally living in my spiritual nature.
I would love to be able to live in the now constantly and learn to allow everything to be a new experience. When I am in learn mode I am open to anything and when I think I know I tend to react and not respond. I think the reason my Ego always thinks it knows is because it wants me to believe it is God. The funny thing is that when I live from my spiritual nature, knowing requires no argument. Reacting almost always promotes argument and responding is normally a statement based more in neutrality.
If I feel agitated it would be best to hold my tongue, although it is hard as my Ego wants to prove I am right. God owns the universe and doesn’t need to convince anyone of anything. When I can respond spiritually I need not say anything; in fact, I can usually humbly refrain from any further conversation. Any conversation I have while reacting is usually a conversation I will need to apologize for. I have learned to apologize but it is not a favorite pastime of mine so I continue to be better at responding. If you want to know where you can improve on your communication skills remember…
Your Life is PERFECT!
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.