In the work that I do, there are many scientific stages to accomplish before freedom and sanity return. The most overlooked step by many professionals or novices; is the individual ready. In the book Alcoholics Anonymous they utilize the infamous Twelve Steps. Most sponsors start their people on step one, yet on page thirty in the book it is stated, “We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed.” Are your prospects ready to go to any lengths?

I refuse to work with people who remain in denial to their illness. Our truth is our truth even if it isn’t the truth. There is only one truth in the Universe and that is God. As long as we are not ready to concede that we are at best secondary to God then we cannot expect any long lasting effect from the arduous efforts to recover from any addiction. Addiction is the word I use for anything I put between God and myself, blocking the sunlight of the spirit. I must be ready, even if only slightly, to surrender all my worldly efforts to a loving and graceful God. If my ideas of God are fear based I may not be able to surrender, while if my ideas of God are love based I instinctually surrender.

When I was in the military I thought a lot about what it would be like to surrender to an enemy and in some cases suicide may have been easier. I had a similar idea about God. Until I was assured that God was not the fearful God of my youth, but a loving and forgiving God, I was unable to surrender to God. This was when I was truly ready. Even with my ongoing readiness, I suffer with denial and delusion. Once I became aware, I have had to surrender to lesser addictions including cigarettes, cigars, anger, sex, gambling, thought and most recently food. In every aspect of my recovery, being ready was the most important one. So if you want to know if you have any addictions you need to become ready to surrender, remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!



Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

About Randolph Ek

My name is Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D. I started life as one of five children of an alcoholic father. The physical and mental abuse nearly destroyed my life. In fact my self-destructive behavior nearly landed me in prison. I eventually was guided to an alcohol/drug counselor and he directed me to a rehabilitation center. Since that time I have spent more than thirty years devoted to helping people find their ultimate potential. We can blame our negative, spiraling life on victimization but until we accept responsibility the power we need is beyond us. When we accept our part in our lives and surrender to a higher power, which I choose to call God, intervention is immediate. God allows us to realize our true power. We are all made in God’s Image and Likeness and have all the power of the universe at our disposal. We are not victims; we are volunteers and once we believe this truth our lives become limitless. God wants us all to have our heart’s desire and he will deliver whatever we continually think about good or bad. Unless I start my day off powerless and humble I cannot make the spiritual connection required to tap into God’s limitless power. God loves mankind and refuses to leave anyone behind. We can go willingly or we can be dragged to salvation. Pain is merely a symptom of spiritual separation mind, body and spirit. Realize, your individual limited resources, seek help, join others in their quest for spiritual understanding. Realize that all religions are right, yet they are also incomplete.

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