In the work that I do, there are many scientific stages to accomplish before freedom and sanity return. The most overlooked step by many professionals or novices; is the individual ready. In the book Alcoholics Anonymous they utilize the infamous Twelve Steps. Most sponsors start their people on step one, yet on page thirty in the book it is stated, “We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed.” Are your prospects ready to go to any lengths?
I refuse to work with people who remain in denial to their illness. Our truth is our truth even if it isn’t the truth. There is only one truth in the Universe and that is God. As long as we are not ready to concede that we are at best secondary to God then we cannot expect any long lasting effect from the arduous efforts to recover from any addiction. Addiction is the word I use for anything I put between God and myself, blocking the sunlight of the spirit. I must be ready, even if only slightly, to surrender all my worldly efforts to a loving and graceful God. If my ideas of God are fear based I may not be able to surrender, while if my ideas of God are love based I instinctually surrender.
When I was in the military I thought a lot about what it would be like to surrender to an enemy and in some cases suicide may have been easier. I had a similar idea about God. Until I was assured that God was not the fearful God of my youth, but a loving and forgiving God, I was unable to surrender to God. This was when I was truly ready. Even with my ongoing readiness, I suffer with denial and delusion. Once I became aware, I have had to surrender to lesser addictions including cigarettes, cigars, anger, sex, gambling, thought and most recently food. In every aspect of my recovery, being ready was the most important one. So if you want to know if you have any addictions you need to become ready to surrender, remember…
Your Life is PERFECT!
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.