Do you have a hard time saying “NO”? Many of my clients have a hard time saying no. This creates a problem with relationships as a person who can’t say no draws people to them who take advantage of them. No, according to, is a negative used to express dissent, denial, or refusal as in response to a question or request. I personally don’t think of yes and no as being positive or negative, same as I try to see my experiences. God is not pro or con; God is law! There is not good or bad if we learn from it. Yes and no basically mean I’m in or I’m out. When someone makes a request of me I need to be sure of my answer because it requires action I may not want to take.

When I say yes I am most often willing to help joyously. while no separates me from further action. When I get requests for help I ask myself am I helping them or enabling them to not meet their own needs. I have been sorry for saying yes much more than I have been sorry for saying no. When I say yes I am committed. If I say no and change my mind I have not lost face. I use to hold many a resentment from being taken advantage of. The resentment was not toward the individual that took advantage of me but me for allowing it. Most of the time if I take time to evaluate my decision I tend to make much better decisions.

It is not always easy saying no. Many times I may want to help someone but either it is outside my ability or I feel I am doing them a greater disservice in saying yes than no. Most people will grow exponentially if they are given the chance to find their own way out of their dilemma. When I evaluate my motives I often find that I am brushing my Ego when I say yes. If I say yes, I pray I am able to help someone achieve a goal that is beneficial to their life, business, family or future and they are willing to carry their share of the weight. I will usually make the right choice of yes or no if I continually remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!



Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

About Randolph Ek

My name is Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D. I started life as one of five children of an alcoholic father. The physical and mental abuse nearly destroyed my life. In fact my self-destructive behavior nearly landed me in prison. I eventually was guided to an alcohol/drug counselor and he directed me to a rehabilitation center. Since that time I have spent more than thirty years devoted to helping people find their ultimate potential. We can blame our negative, spiraling life on victimization but until we accept responsibility the power we need is beyond us. When we accept our part in our lives and surrender to a higher power, which I choose to call God, intervention is immediate. God allows us to realize our true power. We are all made in God’s Image and Likeness and have all the power of the universe at our disposal. We are not victims; we are volunteers and once we believe this truth our lives become limitless. God wants us all to have our heart’s desire and he will deliver whatever we continually think about good or bad. Unless I start my day off powerless and humble I cannot make the spiritual connection required to tap into God’s limitless power. God loves mankind and refuses to leave anyone behind. We can go willingly or we can be dragged to salvation. Pain is merely a symptom of spiritual separation mind, body and spirit. Realize, your individual limited resources, seek help, join others in their quest for spiritual understanding. Realize that all religions are right, yet they are also incomplete.

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