Infatuation defines infatuation as to inspire or possess with a foolish or unreasoning passion, as of love. Most people are originally attracted to someone through infatuation. We are attracted to looks, sexual prowess, strength, wealth, stature or even unknown attraction. The problem is that most people get married before the infatuation can be replaced with a mature respect. When the infatuation subsides they say they are no longer in love.

True love never goes away. Love is permanent. I love everyone! I don’t, although, like everyone. When I give talks on relationships I stress that compatibility is longer lasting than “in love”. Falling in love is always more infatuation than true love. Generations ago, courtship was common. It took years to get to know someone, their family and their habits. The more you have in common, the less you will fight. Almost everyone can handle ten to fifteen percent disagreement but when compatibility grows to twenty percent or more the relationship is bound for disaster.

Infatuation is primarily emotionalism, which is not a solid foundation for any relationship. My wife is a beautiful, intelligent, talented and loving woman. I was never infatuated by her as we began our relationship as friends and we have nurtured that friendship for over thirty-one years. I love my wife more now that I did in the beginning. I was terrified to say “i Do,” thirty one years ago but would say it today without hesitation. My past negative experiences have been replaced with positive experiences. If you want a long term relationship try to convert all infatuation to true love. If you want to know what is and isn’t infatuation remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!



Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

About Randolph Ek

My name is Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D. I started life as one of five children of an alcoholic father. The physical and mental abuse nearly destroyed my life. In fact my self-destructive behavior nearly landed me in prison. I eventually was guided to an alcohol/drug counselor and he directed me to a rehabilitation center. Since that time I have spent more than thirty years devoted to helping people find their ultimate potential. We can blame our negative, spiraling life on victimization but until we accept responsibility the power we need is beyond us. When we accept our part in our lives and surrender to a higher power, which I choose to call God, intervention is immediate. God allows us to realize our true power. We are all made in God’s Image and Likeness and have all the power of the universe at our disposal. We are not victims; we are volunteers and once we believe this truth our lives become limitless. God wants us all to have our heart’s desire and he will deliver whatever we continually think about good or bad. Unless I start my day off powerless and humble I cannot make the spiritual connection required to tap into God’s limitless power. God loves mankind and refuses to leave anyone behind. We can go willingly or we can be dragged to salvation. Pain is merely a symptom of spiritual separation mind, body and spirit. Realize, your individual limited resources, seek help, join others in their quest for spiritual understanding. Realize that all religions are right, yet they are also incomplete.

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