A major issue I find with most of my clients is that they compare themselves to others. Compare, according to, means to examine in order to note similarities and differences; to consider or describe as similar. Most people are not aware enough of their own personality to know what they should be comparing. Twentieth century management use to say, “Find your flaws and conquer them.” Twenty-first century management says, “Find your strengths and hire out your weaknesses.

There are seven and a half billion people on the planet. It is believed that since the first human showed up on earth there have been two hundred and five billion people. Of those billions of people, no two of them have had the same DNA. We are all individual and unique. We share personality traits but we are each distinct. When I have no one to compare myself to I am able to move about in total freedom. I can learn to let instead of make. I can relax and find intuitive thought.

When I am not comparing myself to others I am free to be my ultimate self. I am able to reach my ultimate potential. When I am learning what is my natural self, the self God graced me with, I can relax and move forward with faith and confidence. When I even slightly compare myself with others I see flaws that don’t actually exist. Matthew 7:1&2 of The Holy Bible (KJV) says, “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged; and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” If I want to know where I need to stop comparison I only need to remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!



Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

About Randolph Ek

My name is Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D. I started life as one of five children of an alcoholic father. The physical and mental abuse nearly destroyed my life. In fact my self-destructive behavior nearly landed me in prison. I eventually was guided to an alcohol/drug counselor and he directed me to a rehabilitation center. Since that time I have spent more than thirty years devoted to helping people find their ultimate potential. We can blame our negative, spiraling life on victimization but until we accept responsibility the power we need is beyond us. When we accept our part in our lives and surrender to a higher power, which I choose to call God, intervention is immediate. God allows us to realize our true power. We are all made in God’s Image and Likeness and have all the power of the universe at our disposal. We are not victims; we are volunteers and once we believe this truth our lives become limitless. God wants us all to have our heart’s desire and he will deliver whatever we continually think about good or bad. Unless I start my day off powerless and humble I cannot make the spiritual connection required to tap into God’s limitless power. God loves mankind and refuses to leave anyone behind. We can go willingly or we can be dragged to salvation. Pain is merely a symptom of spiritual separation mind, body and spirit. Realize, your individual limited resources, seek help, join others in their quest for spiritual understanding. Realize that all religions are right, yet they are also incomplete.

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