A major issue I find with most of my clients is that they compare themselves to others. Compare, according to dictionary.com, means to examine in order to note similarities and differences; to consider or describe as similar. Most people are not aware enough of their own personality to know what they should be comparing. Twentieth century management use to say, “Find your flaws and conquer them.” Twenty-first century management says, “Find your strengths and hire out your weaknesses.
There are seven and a half billion people on the planet. It is believed that since the first human showed up on earth there have been two hundred and five billion people. Of those billions of people, no two of them have had the same DNA. We are all individual and unique. We share personality traits but we are each distinct. When I have no one to compare myself to I am able to move about in total freedom. I can learn to let instead of make. I can relax and find intuitive thought.
When I am not comparing myself to others I am free to be my ultimate self. I am able to reach my ultimate potential. When I am learning what is my natural self, the self God graced me with, I can relax and move forward with faith and confidence. When I even slightly compare myself with others I see flaws that don’t actually exist. Matthew 7:1&2 of The Holy Bible (KJV) says, “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged; and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” If I want to know where I need to stop comparison I only need to remember…
Your Life is PERFECT!
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.