Monthly Archives: November 2016

Restraint

As I watch the political protests happening on television I am bewildered by the amount of anger and violence. Eight years ago I felt many of the same feelings and fears of this country’s future. As a child I was taught a thing called restraint. Restraint according to Dictionary.com is the act of holding back, controlling or checking one’s feelings, behaviors, etc. Restraining oneself is an act of maturity. We have become so accustomed to political correctness that everyone seems to believe that others have some power over how we feel.

It is perfectly fine to have feelings. Feelings are either love based or fear based. Emotions are the outcome of our feelings being manipulated by our belief system. Feelings are neither right or wrong. Emotions also are neither right or wrong. What we do with them is what labels them right or wrong.  Maturity is knowing that it is not what happens in life that makes me feel; it is what I tell myself about what happens in life that makes me feel. If I restrain from acting out my emotions and evaluate why I have them I am usually capable of deactivating them.

I must stay vigilant of my feelings and emotions. They are merely symptoms of my belief system and do not need to be acted upon. Restrain is usually very difficult to practice, especially when we are heavily vested in our beliefs. The higher price we pay for our beliefs the more weight they hold. It is nice to know that no one needs to agree with me to validate my ideas and beliefs but I don’t need to force them to change theirs either. I enjoy a good discussion but no one needs to be right as all I have is opinions. If you want to know if you need to practice restraint just remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Philosophy

Why are the two primary political parties so distant? It is because of philosophy. Philosophy, according to Dictionary.com, is the rational investigation of the truth and principles of being, knowledge or conduct as per any of the three branches, namely natural philosophy, moral philosophy and metaphysical philosophy. Philosophy is the conduit for political opinion. No matter which branch of philosophy one pursues it is still more, according to Zen Buddhists, “You don’t see life as it is; you see it as you are.” We were all made in God’s image, which makes us spiritually the same and our differences are what create our purpose.

I have two brothers and two sisters and we all see life differently. If we were primarily driven by our surroundings you would think we would all see life similarly. My father was a conservative and my mother was a liberal and we each became a combination of the two through our own windows plus the addition of the branch of philosophy we pursued. I tried liberal and conservative philosophy and have found conservative to make the most sense to me. I have studied all three branches of philosophy and have finally realized metaphysical philosophy to ring most true with me.

This country seems to swing from conservative to liberal every eight years or so. This year has been the most dramatic of the swings I have seen in the last sixty-four years. The last dramatic change was eight years ago and although the country may have felt the same they handled it with a much higher sense of maturity. The country is as polarized as it has since the civil war and I hope we can overcome our need to control and realize that God is in charge and no one person or group of persons on the planet have more power. Everyone needs to know what their philosophy is by remembering…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

 

Value

I have been watching people for several weeks and am saddened by the value they seem to put on their lives. ¬†Value according to Dictionary.com is relative worth, merit or importance. If people valued their lives, they would not do anything that would hinder their lives. People would eat healthy, exercise often, socialize in person, communicate with friends and family, and treat people with love, dignity and respect. The bible says, “Love thy neighbor as thyself!” I always have! I use to hate me and showed similar disgust to others.

When I realized the relationship I had with myself and my God I realized why I so devalued my life. I was sure that God was unhappy with me and was equally sure that there was no salvation available to me. When I realized that Jesus tried to convince us that God was grace, or unconditional love and never withheld love from me or anyone else I was freed from a life of fear and hatred. It is me through my free will that separated me from God’s grace and it is me that must surrender to God to have my spiritual life restored. It is in that surrender that my value was restored as I realized my true spiritual nature.

When I realized my true perfect spiritual nature I relaxed to my human nature and began to let and not make. I surrendered my struggle and strife. I surrendered my need for power and control. I surrendered my need to judge. I surrendered my life and its outcome. I live in wonder and awe to God’s will for me and look forward to my life as it unfolds under God’s care. I realize my value and knowing that God has no favorites, I realize his grace is equally given to all living creatures. I hope you all can realize your value in God’s eyes and accept it in your hearts. If you want to know your value, remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.