Monthly Archives: August 2016

Contentment

Are you content? Are you satisfied with your life or are you merely settling for mediocrity? Dictionary.com describes contentment as being satisfied with what one is or has; not wanting more or anything else. It seems that being content is the ultimate goal for society. Contentment is reaching Nirvana in Eastern cultures. Contentment is the aim for the Millennials. They want to own less in order to stay fluid and content, unlike the Baby Boomers who have an insatiable appetite and stress ridden goals.

Being driven as I am I don’t know if I will ever become content. I am happy with what I have. I am happy with what I have become. I feel I am overpaid! God has blessed me beyond my wildest dreams. I am happy but I don’t know if I will ever be truly content as I believe God will continue to bring my highest self if I continue to seek it with all that I am capable of mustering. It seems that the more I receive the more I feel I need to become a better steward for God’s universe. Years ago I saw a reader board that said, “Life is not a resting place; it is a testing place.

I am content for short bursts, followed by newfound desire and drive. I guess I would use the term contentment for me as a resting place. I may not feel constant contentment but I am constantly grateful and know I am perpetually blessed. I know that I don’t have to prove myself to God but I stay childlike with wonder and awe. I am driven by wonder and satisfied with awe! I am elated with what God has led me to do with my life as it is in no way a reflection of what I would have chosen for myself. If you want to evaluate your own contentment remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Appreciation

One of my favorite emotions is feeling appreciated. Appreciation according to Dictionary.com is gratitude; thankful recognition; a positive critical notice. Although I feel good when I do a good service to or for someone, shown appreciation is icing on the cake. While serving most of my years in sales, recognition was very rarely shown by either management or customers. The average closing ration in cold sales was 10% while I normally averaged 20-25%. That means that 75-80% of the time the answer was no! With the size of Egos normally associated with sales individuals, no is a very destructive word.

I found in management that a little encouragement went a long way and a show of appreciation garnered long standing loyalty. All people love to be appreciated. People want to know that what they do has worth. We all want to know that we are serving for the better and a little appreciation goes a long way to providing people with the self-esteem that grows us all toward Godliness. We want to feel needed and when someone shows us appreciation it boosts our spirit and improves our view of society. Society seems to be moving away from concern for our fellow human beings.

When we show appreciation to others we feel better about ourselves and, due to Karma, improves our chances of being shown appreciation. What we give is what we get! Remember, “We don’t see the world as it is; we see it as we are.” I don’t expect to get something I am not prepared to give. My life didn’t start getting good till I stared acting and expecting good. Such is the case of appreciation. I spent most of my life no feeling appreciated till I started appreciating others. If you want to know how to get appreciated remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Contemplation

I tell my clients, “If you don’t control your thoughts they will control you.” The art of controlling one’s thoughts is contemplation. Contemplation according to Dictionary.com is thoughtful observation (PAY ATTENTION); deep consideration; reflection; purpose; intention; prospect or expectation.  All of these definitions require one to think and not merely react. Reacting is going with ideas one already has, while contemplation is deliberating on newly acquired information.

I am constantly evaluating what I see, what I think and how I live (a manifestation of my thoughts). My mind is filled with ideas that were never right, once right and have outgrown their usefulness or are right in a different context than NOW! The Bible says to not judge. Judgement is making a decision about a situation based on what I already know. If I evaluate my life through contemplation rather than reaction I give God an opportunity to participate in my life.

We are told to come to God as children. My metaphysical interpretation of this statement is to come to God with wonder and awe. Contemplation is a consequence of wonder and through contemplation, I come to a new loving conclusion. Open mindedness is a term used often to describe people who contemplate. We must always allow new information to penetrate our thoughts if we are going to continue to grow. If you want to know what to contemplate always remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Instructions

My wife and I are ending our annual trip to Montana. This trip was more work than work. It seems that every time I made one step forward I was forced to take two steps back. Sometimes life is busy. Sometimes it borders on torturous. I often lose my patience and get incredibly frustrated. The difference between now and when I was younger is that I know that life is filled with lessons and problems are merely instructions. The cool part is that you can continue to take the test till you ace it.

Life is a constant series of instructions. Sometimes they are fun, sometimes they are difficult, and sometimes they seem impossible. The reality is that as I get older I realize God has never given me lessons impossible. I might get lessons that are layered with instructions, yet the harder the lesson the greater the wisdom or what I call the gold at the end of the rainbow. As everyone knows, you can’t have a rainbow without rain and I often get drenched before I am able to enjoy the rainbow.

It is the essence of life that wisdom comes with age. It is trust beyond faith. It is years of hope that lead us into experiences that create faith and solidifies one’s faith into trust. “I hope” never holds a candle to “I KNOW”. Knowledge without lessons created through instructions will never be wisdom. Knowledge has its place and forged with experience is the best wisdom. Knowledge created through inspiration is my favorite road map. If you want to know how to make the best of your life and live inspired remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.