Monthly Archives: July 2016

Maturity

When I lose my patience I usually remember that I am trying to gain maturity. Dictionary.com describes mature as complete in natural growth or development; fully developed in body or mind.  My body has fully matured but my mind lags behind, sometimes minutes, sometimes years, sometimes decades. I try to remember that I have three levels of consciousness; subconscious, conscious and super-conscious or God conscious. I cannot get to God conscious through sub-conscious so I work hard at staying in the now.

One must learn to live in the now, without reacting to emotions, which are a result of feelings remnant of past experiences. We must try to “come to God as children”, filled with wonder and awe and not preconceived notions of current affairs. I seem to have all the patience in the world when I remove myself of my selfish plans and designs. When I realize that people all have their own ideas of how life should be and it doesn’t always parallel my way. All my impatience is a sign of selfishness and not a sign of maturity or full mental development.

I work hard at trying to realize that everyone is performing at their peak self at any given moment. My poor judgment is not who I am but does give people a poor snapshot of me. I am usually judged by my behavior and when I am angry it is certainly an indication that I am lacking maturity. When I treat others as I would like to be treated I realize that we are all searching for maturity and brief brushes with it is all I can expect of myself and others. If I want to stay fully aware of my maturity level all I need to do is remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Through

“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4 The Bible (KJV). Dictionary.com defines through as moving in one side and out the other toward completion. Finishing would best describe through for me. I can’t count the number of unfinished projects and unfinished business I have left over my lifetime. When I was a practicing alcoholic/addict my lack of interest and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) was rampant.

When I began my road to recovery and started my spiritual journey I never imagined that my life would heal in so many ways. Many of my disorders or character defects have slid away or become manageable. I have invited God into my life and his rod and staff have been comforting me for many years. I have also realized that fear is an illusion and when I am not in fear evil doesn’t exist. Where there is God, evil can’t exist. When I keep God as my primary focus nothing else can consume me.

I pray and meditate constantly; not in a physical kneeling position but always in a humble position. I fired God years ago as my custodian and rehired God as my scout. I let God move ahead of me and stay aware of my life to show me the proper direction my life needs to go. In response to this discipline I am rewarded with intuition and inspiration. God lives in my life in a real and physical way and I do anything I need to do to keep my current relationship with God current. If you want to know if you are going “THROUGH” life remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Intimacy

Intimacy is defined by Dictionary.com as being associated in close personal relations, characterized by or involving warm friendship or a close or familiar association or feeling; very private; closely personal. Intimacy is normally associated sexually, but for me I have several levels of intimacy with friends. Sexual intimacy is only associated within my marriage creating a very special relationship. Intimacy, for me, is having enough faith in someone to share any part of my life freely, knowing it will stay confidential.

I have been told that we are as sick as our secrets so I don’t do anything in my life that cannot be written in any of my books. When I open my life up to all that I do, I am able to allow intimacy into most of my relationships. Most of my friends I feel intimate with as we share all aspects of our lives in an attempt to find resolve. All my problems get resolved because I keep very little of my life secret. It was shared with me years ago that I should live my life as though I had a parrot on my shoulder.

I have great intimacy in my marriage as I have no secrets with my life and I can talk to her about anything even if she doesn’t agree with me. We don’t think alike, we think together. I am grateful I was gifted with memory as I can inventory my life and resolve my character defects by admitting them, sharing them and letting them go. I am constantly evolving by asking God to dissolve those things in me that distract my life from God’s will for me and separate me from intimacy. When I lose intimacy I feel separate from my fellows and God. So I try to remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.