Monthly Archives: November 2015

Infatuation

Dictionary.com defines infatuation as to inspire or possess with a foolish or unreasoning passion, as of love. Most people are originally attracted to someone through infatuation. We are attracted to looks, sexual prowess, strength, wealth, stature or even unknown attraction. The problem is that most people get married before the infatuation can be replaced with a mature respect. When the infatuation subsides they say they are no longer in love.

True love never goes away. Love is permanent. I love everyone! I don’t, although, like everyone. When I give talks on relationships I stress that compatibility is longer lasting than “in love”. Falling in love is always more infatuation than true love. Generations ago, courtship was common. It took years to get to know someone, their family and their habits. The more you have in common, the less you will fight. Almost everyone can handle ten to fifteen percent disagreement but when compatibility grows to twenty percent or more the relationship is bound for disaster.

Infatuation is primarily emotionalism, which is not a solid foundation for any relationship. My wife is a beautiful, intelligent, talented and loving woman. I was never infatuated by her as we began our relationship as friends and we have nurtured that friendship for over thirty-one years. I love my wife more now that I did in the beginning. I was terrified to say “i Do,” thirty one years ago but would say it today without hesitation. My past negative experiences have been replaced with positive experiences. If you want a long term relationship try to convert all infatuation to true love. If you want to know what is and isn’t infatuation remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Care

The word care has a broad variety of meanings. According to Dictionary.com care can mean a troubled or worrisome state of mind or merely showing concern. Care can be used to describe the change in my attitude in the last thirty five years from a lack of care to caring deeply.  I don’t know if it is concern or just awareness of oneness. I know that I am a child of God and I am also aware of the other 7.3 billion children God possess.

God is the only entity in the universe that can individualize itself. Individualizing is the capacity of giving 100% to everyone always. God is always there for me 100% and is always available 100% of the time to 100% of creation. As I am made in God’s image I must work to care 100%, 100% of the time. I am human therefore fallible but fallibility is no excuse for not working 100% of the time to achieve Godliness.  I can only let God down by not trying.

What do you care about? Who do you care about? Do you show you care? Do you act Godlike by loving and accepting people? If you are critical of people you cannot be accepting or caring. Caring does not mean we do for others. Caring means we do with others. I work beside people to help them achieve while not trying to carry the weight they were meant to carry. God brings me trouble to grow me and others to grow with. If you want to know what to care about remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Magnanimous

According to Dictionary.com magnanimous means generous in forgiving an insult or injury; free from petty resentfulness or vindictiveness; unspiteful; high-minded or noble.  Magnanimous people are always happier than those who hold grudges or harbor hatred. Love and hate are opposites, therefore love being light, hate is darkness. Love is Godlike and hatred is Godless. Magnanimous people are Godlike. Magnanimous is an expression of grace.

In the Twelve Step programs loss of resentment or hatred requires magnanimity. Unhappy people have put themselves above, ahead or apart from God. Whether we are apart from God through arrogance, narcissism or disdain the effects are the same. We are either in God’s light or we are in darkness. God is a jealous God in that we are either focused on God or the world. In Matthew 6:24, Jesus said, ” No man can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one, and love the other or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.”

We must all strive to be magnanimous. We must practice God’s grace, unconditional love. When we are striving to honor God we must love. ISIS can take my life but they cannot take away my love and honor for my Christian roots and my Gnostic heritage. We should stand strong toward our practice of God’s grace in whatever religious or spiritual denomination we choose, but stand strong we must. If you want to know where you will find your magnanimity remember…

Your Life is Perfect!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Control

Control according to Dictionary.com is to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate, command, regulate or hold in check. To control is to overpower other inner or outer forces. I find that when I think I am in control I have lost my spiritual oneness and have isolated myself from God. I cannot let and make at the same time and to let is to know that all power, including my own, belongs to God. I have power, but unless I align my power with God’s power I could very easily be controlling things away from God’s.

The only control I can utilize that will perpetuate my oneness with God is controlling my inner urges to control. I need to control my selfishness. I need to control my responses to others, especially when I am angry as I tend to want to strike out when I am angry. I must control my emotions, while still experiencing them. I must control my urges to live primarily in my Human Nature; reacting to pleasure instead of working toward happiness.  I must make sure that my outer response to life is an example of my spiritual self and not my animal nature.

We are spiritual beings learning human experiences and must control our judgment. To control is to stand before God and behind God. All that I am is God and God is grace or unconditional love. If I am not living a life of love I am not living a life of God. I must control the desire to follow broad social standards and stick to my conservative values, which are basic in the Ten Commandments. I am becoming the person God made me to be and control is a very small part of that direction. If you want to know what you should control remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Daring

“No one reaches a high position without daring.” ~ Publilius Syrus (1st Century BC). Dictionary.com describes daring as bold, courageous, fearless, intrepid or adventurous. Do you live your life with daring? Do you dare, step outside of your comfort zone or push yourself? God provides us with exactly the amount of success we dare to create. God does not do for people or to people; God does through people.

We are all made in God’s image and likeness and have unlimited power but we must manifest that power and that requires daring. We must find the power within ourselves and allow it to saturate our lives. We must trust our intuition and move with purpose and faith. Action moves us forward, but moving intuitively provides a parallel purpose with God and the power we need to succeed is provided to us.

Every fear, worry or doubt is disloyalty to God. Faith is our channel to God and fear, being the absence of faith, blocks God. Without God life means nothing and is going nowhere. It is vital we continue to build our conception of God to help in increasing our faith. We must always remember we were made in God’s image and must never make God in our image. If you want to find greatness you must first find your oneness by remembering…

Your Life is PERFECT!

PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,

Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.