Challenges are described by Dictionary.com as a call or summons to engage in any contest, as of skill, strength, etc. Life challenges are usually seen as punishments yet if we merely approach a challenge at it’s face value, we tend to find tremendous inner strength to meet the challenge with courage and determination. It is the approach to a challenge that sets the tone for the challenge. As was constantly reminded to us in the recently released movie, “Bridge of Spies,” worrying doesn’t help any situation.
When my house caught fire on June 9th I was so consumed with keeping he dogs safe and my wife contacted that the seemingly mountainous events just fell into place. It wasn’t comfortable and it didn’t come with a period of depression and concern but most of my concern was directed on my wife and dogs. It wasn’t till after the ordeal that I took the time to evaluate my misjudgments and mistakes. When challenges hit the best thing to do is pray, meditate and act.
A challenge is God’s way of offering unlimited support and guidance. When I hesitate, pray and meditate I tend to receive guidance and my mistakes are few. I may not do what others agree with but the actions I take always work out for the best. My whole life has been for the best. I continue to watch my life unfold in a way that proves God has a plan for me even if I make errors in judgment and actions. God wants me to have my heart’s desire and many paths are longer when I interfere. The best way to approach challenges is by remembering…
Your Life is PERFECT!
Dr. Randolph Ek,. Mpsy.D.
The definition of history I want to talk about according to Definitions.com is a continuous, systematic narrative of past events as relating to particular people. I have history with people that establish one of several levels of friendships. Like with all relationships, the most important ingredient is compatibility. I have friends that I have vast history with yet we seldom have similar opinions. I also have friends that I have very little history with yet we are very connected.
I began to think about my friends after I left Montana from my four month stay from our house fire. I called Montana home from fourteen years old to forty eight. I had great friends and have tried to hold on to most of them. The problem arises when we left to move to Arizona the chains that bind friends rusted and lost their strength. Distance can make the heart grow fonder but it can also loose its interest.
Arizona has become my new home and I don’t feel I want to rebuild history in a new community again. I found good and bad in everyplace I have ever lived. Rebuilding a life required reestablishing history with people. I enjoy reaching back and visiting places I have history with but the longer I stay the less any of them feel like home. I take personal responsibility for my current situation as I feel the older I get the more important friendships are and the more I tend to invest so Arizona will be my permanent home. If you want to know where your history is invested remember…
Your Life is PERFECT!
Dr. Randolph Ek
A victim according to Dictionary.com is a person who suffers from a destructive or injurious action or agency; also a person who is deceived or cheated as by his or her own emotions, ignorance, by the dishonesty of others, or by some impersonal agency. I believe most victimization is a byproduct of wrong thinking. We draw negativity to us as we put out negativity. I have had many tragic things happen to me in my life yet I upon sufficient research I led myself over the cliff.
About the only time victimization is the responsibility of another is in the experience of children, people who think like children and .01% of the time when “shit happens.” If I don’t have full trust in people or situations I just don’t act. I tell my clients all the time, “If your thoughts and conscience don’t have clear direction, do not make any decision.” No important decisions must be made in a hurry. I don’t go places that aren’t safe. I trust less people more than ever before as my trust in others has proven destructive.
Upon thorough examination I have found my victimization to be as much my fault as another’s. Wanting to trust someone and able to trust someone are miles apart but I tend to superimpose them. It is usually my own ignorance that causes me problems that I use to term myself a victim. When I am willing to take 100% responsibility for everything in my life I become a victor instead of a victim. Responsibility also removes me from being targeted by victimizers. If you want to know how to prevent victimization remember…
Your Life is PERFECT!
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.