Monthly Archives: May 2013

Brazen

Could you call yourself brazen? Do you ooze with confidence? Are you often called arrogant? If not why not? This society has so many hang-ups and low self-esteem we all seem guilty when we live the way God wants us to. Jesus stated, “No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.” Do you trust your Spiritual Nature or your Human Nature?


Most of us have been taught that it is inexcusable to stand out in a crowd. The idea that we should aim for average must be stomped out of social idealism. We must be individual, remembering that we have all the freedom in the universe other than to steel freedom from others. We must also combine this law with the fact that one’s reactions to life are based merely on their perception and esteem. If my esteem is good, your opinion doesn’t matter to me.

I love God and God loves me. You don’t get to vote on that. I am perfect the way I am and I continue evaluating myself in an effort to become even more perfect tomorrow. My perfection is determined by my desire to become God like, filled with grace, nonjudgmental. “Judge not, that ye be not judged.” It is not our Spiritual Nature that has the need to judge, for it is God. It is our Human Nature that lives in fear and always looking at the glass half empty instead of half full. It is fear that destroys the ability to be brazen.

Although God is always available to us we separate ourselves from God by our judgment. We decide what to believe. We are bound by our beliefs. We are also bound to others by our judgment. Move away from judgment and free yourself to live and grow. I don’t know what is right or wrong other than to use God as a pattern. If it is grace or unconditional love than it is righteous judgment. God sees himself in all the universe so be a part of it and do not let fear destroy an otherwise perfect existence.

This righteous (right thought) judgment frees me to live brazenly. I move forward without reins of judgment allowing me to move freely, with confidence. If I make mistakes I mark them up to opportunities for growth, wisdom and awareness. God lives in all my life, therefore I can know I am always on the right path. All roads lead to God and although some are more rocky than others they all possess spiritual needs if I watch for them. When I can move freely I am guided to my heart’s desires. This is why I always leave you with…

Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Regret

Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back.  Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can’t build on it; it’s only good for wallowing in. ~ Katherine Mansfield (1888-1923)

Whatever you regret, start now and recover. When my life is done I want to regret nothing. I want to be thankful for everything. I want to know I did all that I was capable of doing. I want to know I gave all that I was capable of giving. I want to know that I loved fearlessly. If I can honestly say I have done my best, with no regret, then I can know that God has been proud of me and that is my ultimate goal. When I am with God I am at peace, intuitive and courageous.

We must wake in the morning with simple plans and tremendous energy. We must stay aware of God and how my plans and God’s plans may not be in sync. When God’s plans are not the same as mine then I must be willing to submit my will. I have learned through the years that it is in my best interest to acknowledge God’s will and follow plans much larger than my own. Whatever befalls me is within my power to overcome. Alone I am nothing but with God I am unwavering.

Regret devastates esteem. It is against our spiritual nature to settle. We are embodied with the same spirit that designed the universe. Exactly why would I settle knowing the power that I have at my disposal. I never want to be known as average, normal or regular because although I am a piece of a great whole I am individual and unique. Feel free to dream. Stop all the negative talk that stops you from being your best. And most of all remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D. 

Destiny

I am often asked if I believe in destiny. Well my answer is yes and no. Our final destiny, guaranteed through God’s grace, is a permanent return to our spiritual nature. Our journey is determined by the choices we make and how long it takes us to empty our basket of lessons. As we all must learn the same lessons it behooves us to give life our best, constantly. The sooner we finish our tasks, the sooner we return to Nirvana.


When we learn that we cannot make mistakes as all experiences are packed with lessons. When we take the time to pray and meditate we get answers. When we commune with God prior to our experiences we are guided to our ultimate potential. When we commune with God following our encounters we are guided into the wisdom buried in them. The key is not in the destination as it is guaranteed it is in enjoying and learning from our life opportunities.

God’s job description is to grant us our heart’s desire. The thoughts I entertain are the map that God follows in granting that desire. When I am pessimistic my life is destructive and when I am optimistic life is constructive. I choose my life’s days, weeks, months and years, while God chooses my destiny. If you want to enjoy the journey toward your destiny always remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.   

Originality

Encarta Dictionary describes originality as the quality of newness that exists in something not done before or not derived from anything else. Although we are all made unique in God’s infinite creative nature, we must continually achieve newness. We must each examine our usefulness to ourselves and others and work to improve the original that we all are. I find the process of inventorying myself often to be the best way to achieve my ultimate potential.

One of my favorite automobiles is the original Ford Mustang. I love seeing a well maintained and personally sculpted Pony. The wrecking yards are filled with junk Mustangs as not everyone loved them the way I do. As a metaphysical psychologist I also see people who have shown themselves and their lives the same lack of love and respect. They have settled for a flawed original instead of constantly working on being the best. There is only one way to be the best when you are the only model. You must judge your present self against your old self. You must mold your future self against your heart’s desires.

We should all love the first image we see in our morning mirror. We should exercise often, eat well, continue to learn and grow. We should pray and meditate to strengthen our relationship with God as well as the people we share our lives with. We must find a balance of self and selflessness. We must feel perfect alone as well as how we fit in the Universe. All is connected and all connections are vital to our oneness. I commit myself to being the best I can be, sharing that with the Universe and compensate myself with constant improvement. If you really want to live a better life always remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Communion

When I mention communion people tend to think about the Christian sacrament. When I speak of communion I think of a spiritual connection both of intellect and emotion. Communion is the time I spend in prayer and meditation talking and listening to God. Communion is created through dedicated and passionate communication. Almost half of all marriages dissolve because not enough time is dedicated to communication and therefore communion never exists. Without communion there can not be love.


I learned dedication decades ago when I found myself so depressed that the only thoughts I had were escape strategies including suicide. In my habits of trying to fill my spiritual needs with material stuff, a course in selfishness, I created a separation from God that almost literally killed me. The more I tried to fill my gaping hole the larger the hole got. I finally hit my bottom and God was there to catch me. I have since given my life to God, as I understand, and practice never not thinking of God.

To develop a constant communication with God I must do my part and commune with God. I must offer God a permanent and perpetual place in my life and not just try to make room for God. When I put God first in my life the rest of my life goes well. When I try to make my life go well in order to find time for God I can’t seem to find the time because my life is chaos. When I am trying to play God, God stands back as God has no need to battle with me and I am ludicrous in thinking I can win in war with God. 

I surrender in the morning when I awake. I don’t wait until I have taken control. I take a few minutes to read spiritual thoughts, letting them sink in. I pray, asking God for his wisdom and guidance to flow through me. I then meditate and wait for intuitive thought, which always comes if I stay relaxed and surrendered. God is omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscient so I get what I ask for; good or bad. God wants to provide me with my heart’s desire and I will only find it in communion with God. This is why I always leave you with…

Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D. 

Criticism

Criticism is one of the most horrific habits humans have. People sometimes say it is for our own good, which is more for their own good. Sometimes criticism is even justified under the guise of “constructive.” I believe that “criticism without cure is criminal.” We should never criticize if we can’t alleviate the fault with sufficient counsel. Criticism is the most prominent debilitator of great esteem.

Most criticizers were brought up with criticism. The more it was justified the more the victim believed it and the more they believe it the more they bring it into their own lives and habits. As a psychologist I find that some clients are so sure they know what is right for everyone that they criticize constantly. This behavior separates us both from man and from God as God has commanded us to not judge and that is exactly what criticism is. 

I don’t think any of us are free from admonishing criticism. Criticism is such a formidable foe in our society that we don’t even question it. We feel it is our right, in fact our duty, to criticize people. Whether we criticize a physical thing, an action, or an opinion we should first remember, “Judge not, lest ye be judged!” I don’t know what comes first the chicken or the egg but at some point it must come to a stop. We don’t know what is good or bad for anyone. We will do well to learn to accept flaws in human character or we shall never accept ourselves as we are also flawed. 

We will criticize less if we inventory our lives and find the people who criticizer us the most. Do we really want to be like them. Do we want to live as isolated a life as they created for themselves. If we want to surround ourselves with greatness we must promote greatness. We might lovingly point out something in someone along with a personal story of something that was brought to your attention. When we share our own faults with others we equalize mankind and allow people to know we are all on this planet together to learn and be happy. And as always remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D. 

Ability

Are sure of all your abilities? How can you be? You can only be sure of your abiities by having learned all your lessons in all your past and current experiences and have no future experiences. Your abilities are endless based on your ability to know your assetts and defects of character; what you are good at and bad at. 

There are people who continue to explore relationships without becoming aware of their part in the failures. As Albert Einstein says, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” If an effect is to change the cause must also, as Cause=Effect is the central law of all laws. It it also vital to remember that as I am the common denominator of every formula of my life it is my cause that I must expend all my energy in understanding and changing if I can, accepting if I can’t.

After hundreds of personal inventories I have taken I still am not aware of my true abilities but I am closing in on those I am willing to settle on. I have fairly good communication skills. I have good scientific common sense (common sense depends on what is common to the seer). I have a good sense of humor. I understand love both in sensative and tough forms. I continue to try to understand a loving God that I try to emulate with limited results. I tell people that there are people that would die for me and people who would like to see me dead and I let them work it out as I am OK with me.

Most of us find that when we meet life alone we are in bad company. We need each others in all levels of our life. I need basic social affluence. I need love. I need to be appreciated. I need encouragement. I need professional guidance in staying mentally, physically and spiritually fit. I only know what I know and there is plenty I don’t know. If I needed to know everything God wouldn’t have sent me all of you.

“All mankind is of one author, and is one volume; when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated…As therefore the bell that rings to a sermon, calls not upon the preacher only, but upon the congregation to come: so this bell calls us all: but how much more me, who am brought so near the door by this sickness. No man is an island, entire of itself…any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.” ~ John Donne (1572-1631)

Know your abilities as well as you can and don’t deny who you are but challenge yourself to be the best God intended you to be. Dive into life fearlessly. Each failure is new evidence of your abilities at the present time but also is a challenge for improvement. Move forward with incredible faith and trust in God’s grace. And most of all remember…

Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Fate

Do you believe in fate? Do you think we are all but pawns for God to move and use like sacrificial lambs. If you do then you still believe in a God of the ages; a superstitious sanctimonious taskmaster who’s master plan is much larger than us and that he is constantly angry at mankind in general. This is not the God of my understanding. The God of my understanding is the epitome of grace. It may be completely arrogant of me to assume that God made the universe for humankind. My belief that I am made in God’s image and likeness unlike any other creature in the universe can also be seen as a display of my arrogance, but it makes much more sense than the God I was taught as a child.


I believe that when a soul is born it is given a basket of lessons. All souls get the same basket. God allows each soul to take as many lives as is necessary to empty the basket. This idea disavows the idea of fate. I also believe that between lives we sit in purgatory with God and actually choose our parents in order to predispose us to a particular set of DNA. DNA establishes personality and personality drives our destiny, necessary to remove certain lessons from our basket, within a specific life span. In this way, eventually, every human being will be required to experience everything others experience. This helps my definition of God to be that of a fair and loving father and not a dissatisfied commander.

My fate is that eventually I will be one with my father in Heaven, Nirvana, Rapture, Paradise or any other final resting place you have determined for yourself. I have eternity to accomplish this task of Heaven and I get to choose whether I travel peacefully or in a fiery chariot but I must empty my basket before I have the golden ticket necessary to cross the spiritual threshold. Today I am focused on living a full and responsible life. I cannot stay attentive if I am not aware of the lessons I need to learn. These lessons may involve you but they are my lessons and I must take responsibility for everything in my life as my life is my choice. This is why I always try to remind you that…

Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.

Loneliness

I am quite sure we have all felt alone on occasion. The feeling of loneliness is an illusion as it is a symptom of a feeling of separateness from something we have become dependent on. The only true need a human has, in their spiritual essence, is a connection with God. God, being omnipotent, omnipresent and omniscient, is always available. Loneliness is a direct response to placing reliance on someone or something other than God. God is available 24/7 to meet all our needs; physical, mental and emotional.

Jesus taught us about a God more magnificent than any description provided by all the spiritual giants before him. In Jesus’ lost years, from the time he was 12 until he road into Jerusalem on an ass at the age of 30, he meandered across the east. He studied and taught the spiritual truth all across the know world building the truth about God’s majesty. And even with the greatest truth about God in his mind Jesus had periods of loneliness. Jesus, like ourselves, was human and possessed an Ego. As is the work of Ego, it constantly works to separate us from our oneness with God. The fear that feeds the Ego cannot exist in the presence of God as God is love.

It is good to know that it is a characteristic of our Ego to feel lonely but it is also good to remember that living in God’s grace is quick to dissolve all loneliness. Loneliness like all symptoms of dis-ease are blessing of awareness; that something is misaligned in some area of our existence. When we respond quickly to symptoms of dis-ease we nip potential problems in the bud. If we deny or disguise our symptoms with thought or drugs we allow the dis-ease to fester and grow into what we eventually call reality. 

Reality is merely manifestations, the combination of thought and action, created by us individually or collectively. The more people involved in establishing reality the more solid the illusion of reality becomes. We must remember that no matter how solid the reality seems, it is still merely an illusion. All of what we see in what we call life is past manifestations; some of mankind and some of God. All of life is alive and accessible to new manifestation or change. 

We must constantly remember that all that is, is love and all illusion is fear. We must evaluate our environment and isolate that which is entrenched in fear and lack, focusing our attention and energy on love and domination. When we realize our power we immediately lose our need to lack. All that is, is God and all that isn’t is illusion. The major answer to all our problems lay in the trust in God’s ability to relieve all our dis-ease. This why I always remind all my friends that…

Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!

Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.