Assertiveness
As a metaphysical psychologist I work with both passive and aggressive personality types. The basic reason my clients have problems is they don't know how to communicate. Both personalities have difficulties with communication for opposite reasons.
Passive people don't ask for what they want and when they don't get what they want they get frustrated. People need to be responsible for getting their needs met and passive people tend to be too passive to achieve this simple procedure.They want to blame not getting their needs met on others and this creates a victim mentality. The blame for this rests solely on each of us.
Aggressive people tend to demand and expect their needs to be met. The less their needs are met the more aggressive they become until they block all access to their needs. When people get too aggressive they are seen as victimizers; usually at the expense of victims. One cannot make life happen. One must learn to ask for what they need and not demand or expect it.
The bridge that works for both personality types is the art of assertiveness. Assertiveness is a communication tool that all great communicators have realized. When a passive person becomes assertive they begin to get most of their needs met. When an aggressive person is assertive they create an atmosphere of teamwork and everyone wins. If we rid the world of victims or victimizers they will rematerialize due to the needs of each.
If you wonder what personality you have, the answer lies in whether you are seen as a victim or a victimizer. If you would like to get your needs met more frequently learn to be assertive and don't rely on your natural tendencies. Assertiveness is a great equalizer. To know if assertiveness training would help you all you need to do is remember...
Your Life is PERFECT!
PAY ATTENTION!!!
Love,
Dr. Randolph Ek, Mpsy.D.
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